I can’t stand the sad comment and the “head tilt” with it. You know, that “Oh, I’m so sad for you” and the head is tilted to the side. It is condescending,
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs https://simplypsychology.org/maslow.html has always fascinated me. From the basic needs; food & water, shelter and warmth up to Self-Actualization; achieving your potential. I strive to make the best with what I’ve got. My young and angry self has softened with time, and I’m grateful to have, and continue to, learn my life’s lessons.
If you don’t like what’s going on in your life, make a change. If a change is impossible, alter your reaction to it. Step or roll, from a place of power, not pity.
I know me and my friends with disabilities don’t want your pity but instead your compassion. Invite people with disabilities to your house. Meet out some place; the art museum, a nature preserve, the library or for a bite to eat. Make society more accessible. Look at people with disabilities and say, “Hello.” Yes, it is really that simple.
Hanging out with people like me takes a little planning; is the place wheelchair accessible? What personal care needs to be considered? Will my tall van be able to park somewhere?
Create our world into a better place than you found it but do so in empowering ways!